No Need

I have been a good friend and it is always my pleasure to help my friend. I ahd always been a friend to everybody specially to my guy friends.

Almost all of them has a girlfriend and it is never new to me if they will ask my help concerning their girls. I have been their instant consultant when it comes to that aspect and I’m happy to help them. But one of them is really hard to understand. He studies at the same school I am attending right now which is really far from them. Which means he is far from his girl. They always talk to each other thru phone and it is natural to miss the one you love specially if they are far away. But this is too much! I have been with my friend for a while now and his lifestyle with his girlfriend will take him no more further.

He has this kind of lifestyle that may ruin his life forever. He always talk to his girl on the phne and even forget that he needs to sleep because his girlfriend doesn’t hang up. His girlfriend always monitor his schedule and asks where the hell he is. He has his own mind for crying out loud! He don’t need a detector or a monitor. My friend really love her. He always follow his girlfriend’s instrutions. Maybe that’s why they lasted for two long years. He is very patient with everything. All our holidays, he spends it with his girlfriend like intramurals, semestral break, christmas vacation,and summer vacation. It is nice but it is too much because when he goes home, he always extends he vacation for his beloved girlfriend. They missed each other that he forgets that he has a class to attend. He has been under probation because he is barely seen at the campus and he can’t catch up with the lessons because of the absences. See what happened?!

Yes he is ruining his life because he wants to have a quality time with his girl. It is too much don’t you think? ‘Cause for me, it is.

If you really love somebody, you won’t think of the quality time you want to have with your partner. You must consider that you are not the only thing he/she needs to prioritize. He has his own life. You will think of your partner’s future. You will support on what he wants in his life and not to confine him with what you want. You may be meant for each other but if not, make sure that you will not regret the time that you have been together. Tell me if you have a partner and because of that partner of yours, you stopped in your sudies and after a long period of time you broke up. Won’t you be very regretful of the time you have been wasted? You should have been a good lawyer for example if ever you have continued your studies. It will be hard for you to find another partner because you have no degree. Don’t you think so? Hate to admit it, but having brains is a factor to be noticed. Even though you love each other, we are also practical so we will choose the one who has a dream on his life.

Distant relationship may work on you. You just need to know your limits. Yes, communication is the key on this kind of relationship but you must know that your communication, the only thing that connects you, is not the only thing you need to do. You have responsibilities to other people around you like you family so don’t waste your time just talking to your partner. You must not think of it as a lose instead make it your inspiration. That if you finished your studies, you will have your quality time with your loved one. All the time you want with your partner.